A grown woman publicly brags about stalking a young athlete in his DMs. Then she plays victim about potential consequences from his girlfriend. This isn’t flirty fun. It’s boundary-crossing behavior that would be called out immediately if the genders were flipped. This whole stalking behavior situation is exactly what I mean.

Alright, let’s talk about this mess. I saw this headline and just rolled my eyes. Hard. Another Bravo star, Salley Carson. She’s “sliding into DMs.” And she’s making it a whole public spectacle. Seriously? We’re still doing this?

Salley Carson Is after Cooper DeJean. He’s a young guy. And apparently, possibly, maybe, dating Nikki Bella.

The DM Debacle – Salley Carson

So Salley Carson, bless her heart, decides to DM this guy. On Instagram. She’s asking about Nikki Bella. Like, *straight up* asking if they’re together. This isn’t subtle. This isn’t a “hey, saw you play.” This is targeted.

Salley Carson calls him “so cute.” Fine. People are cute. But then she jokes about Nikki Bella “beating her ass.” For what? For bothering her man? Yeah, maybe.

It’s just… Ugh. The whole thing screams desperation. And

Photo: Bravo TV

Salley Carson Woman with wavy blonde hair. — Photo: Bravo TV

The Part Nobody’s Talking About

Here’s the thing. If a man did this. To a female athlete. Or a public figure. And she had a boyfriend. It would be a HUGE problem. A scandal. He’d be called a creep. A stalker. People would be up in arms. And rightly so.

But a woman does it? It’s “flirty.” It’s “cute.” It’s “making a move.” No. It’s not. It’s the exact same behavior.

Boundaries exist. For everyone. – Salley Carson

So a reality star publicly admits to sliding into a professional athlete’s DMs, asks about his rumored girlfriend, calls him “so cute,” then jokes about the girlfriend beating her up. And this is supposed to be funny? The double standard is wild. pic.twitter.com/example

— Sports Fan Reacts February 17, 2026

What This Actually Means For You

This isn’t just about some reality star. This is about a broader problem. Society normalizes this behavior from women. And it’s toxic. It teaches young women it’s okay to disrespect relationships. To invade privacy. To treat men as objects.

Imagine being Nikki Bella. You’re a powerful woman. A WWE superstar. You’re minding your own business. And some reality star is publicly making a joke out of your relationship. That’s disrespect. Plain and simple. Stop , Salley Carson.

And for Cooper DeJean? He’s probably just trying to focus on his life. He doesn’t need this kind of drama.

The Real Story Behind The Headlines

The NY Post article frames it as a lighthearted story. “He’s so cute!” and “beat my ass!” Funny, right? Not really. It’s dismissive of the impact.

We talk a lot about protecting women from unwanted advances. And we should. But we also need to talk about protecting *everyone*. Men included. From unwanted attention. From invasive behavior. From people who just don’t get personal space.

This isn’t a gendered issue. It’s a decency issue.

Why This Matters More Than You Think

It sets a terrible precedent. Especially for young people. They see this on social media. They see it celebrated. Or at least, not condemned. And they think it’s okay. They think it’s how you get attention. Or how you get a date.

It’s not. It’s how you look desperate. And inappropriate.

I’ve been around. I’ve seen a lot of things. And I’ve worked in media. At DailyNewsEdit, we’re always pushing for real talk. For calling things what they are. This isn’t “cute.” This is predatory. And if it were a man, everyone would agree.

The Double Standard Is Bonkers

Seriously, the double standard here is insane. If a male reality star publicly DMs a new female athlete. Someone who is rumored to be dating a famous male wrestler. And asks about the wrestler. He’d be ripped to shreds. His career would be over.

But Salley Carson? She gets a little chuckle. A “she’s so sassy!” kind of vibe. No. Just no. It’s not sassy. It’s bad behavior. It’s crossing lines.

Men face these issues too. The pressure. The unwanted attention. The idea that their boundaries don’t matter. It’s something we discuss often at TheManEdit.

My Take? Stop It.

Honestly, just stop it. Have some respect. For yourself. For others. For relationships. If someone is rumored to be in a relationship, leave them alone. Especially if you don’t even know them.

DMing someone cold is one thing. Publicly broadcasting it and making jokes about their partner? That’s a whole other level. And it’s not a good look. For anyone.

Let people live their lives. Without the extra drama. Without the public spectacle. It’s really not that hard. And it’s definitely not “cute.” It’s just… sad.